EASTER MUSINGS!!!!

Hey guys,

What a while it has been!

I never thought I'd have to be away from this space as long as I've been, but I guess sometimes, life just happens. I'm not gonna bore you with my busy work life and all that's been going on, I'm just gonna stick with the fact that it sure feels good to be back on here!

Earlier today, being the resurrection day, I thought of what to write about the cross..,and I realized that sometimes, we don't have to go too deep to bring out certain truths. Sometimes, its okay to run your fingers on the surface and glaze through what lies on there, because in truth, even a surface should be so sharp you get bleeding fingers.


A couple of days ago, In attempts to get rid of some of my achieves, I stumbled on a dress I wore to a friend's birthday dinner a few years back and surprisingly, I vividly remember the funny event that took place that day.

We had all gathered for the meal, and were asked to place our order for drinks accordingly. Shortly before I placed mine, this guy opposite me, who had (as at then), recently returned from the UK, had grabbed on all the munches initially placed on the table for 10, taken off his cap, his tie and finally, his Suit. Dude seemed to have been ready for the dinner since the day before. To confirm my suspecion, he requested for a glass of mojito and added "One large please". This was minutes after his first drink order of Chapman was placed. To think that was deep, the food menu came and he began with the appetizers, of which his consisted of some honey glazed chicken wings, prawns and Mayo spring rolls and some waffles. As if that wasn't enough, he requested for a chicken curry sauce alongside a bowl of steamed rice for his main course, some spare ribs and crispy chips to go with it. We all ate and chatted with eachother, as he drew more attention to himself from the way he kept ordering for more drinks and trying to have a taste of both his neighbours' food. When the feast was finally over, dude turned red from the surprise on his face when we were asked to sort out our bills individually.

All long he thought the celebrant was to pay the bills like its usually done in the UK, but unfortunately for him, that wasn't the case and so he had to face the consequences.

Greed doesn't pay!! Jesus thought about you when he died on the cross. Always think about others not just yourselves.

Happy Easter.

WHEN ARE YOU GETTING MARRIED?!!!!!

Hey guys,

I know this is coming in really late but hey! it's still a new year, so I can still say Happy new year my lovely blog readers! I hope the year has been great thus far?

The calendar page has now turned from 2016 to 2017 and some will say "Not a moment too soon" as a result of the most dreaded question which always increases with each passing year - "When are you getting married? "

I recently called a friend I hadn't spoken to since late last year and the first thing he said to me was "I thought you've married!". After I replied saying "Is that how they now marry"?, To make matters worse, he now asked " Oya when is the wedding"? This really got me thinking about this seemingly comical but ultimately very serious issue. MARRIAGE!!

I don't know if it's just me but the issue of marriage seems very deep (not like I'm against marriage or anything), but it just gets me wondering each time. It gets so deep, especially in this part of the world and for women, that if at 24 or 25 she still hasn't gotten married, it will turn to prayer point. Any other age from then on will be unto deliverance or from one prayer mountain to another. Next thing, she'll end up being pressured into marrying early and to the wrong person or to someone she probably doesn't love.

Getting married is easy, staying married is difficult. In fact, the wedding for some is the only time during the course of marriage, they will love each other genuinely and be truely happy because after the wedding, marriage begins and that's when yawa go start. My mum once said for a marriage to work, it's not about compatibilities but incompatibilities. That is to say, its not about how compartable you guys are but how you handle the incompatibilities.

As much as I'd love to get married and to the man God has ordained for me, I have come to realise that there are very necessary questions to ask myself, there are many things and keys of wisdom to aquire before embarking on that journey called marriage.

It is not a game nor a race, an achievement nor an outdated institution. Marriage is a mentality that we need to build and cultivate with and by the word of God.

So rather than ask dreading questions like "when are you getting married"?  " When do I get my asoebi"?, "When is he proposing"?, why don't you come along to the singles and married seminar where you can get answers to the many questions and thoughts that come up in your minds with regards to relationships, marriage, dating, sex and many more.

Time: 8am-12pm
Venue: 6B lasale close Maitama Abuja.

Hope to see you there and have a lovely week. :)

CHRISTMAS WISH!!!

Hey people! What a time to be alive.

Tomorrow is Christmas eve and it is one of the best days for me. Let's just say it is pretty much the merriest part of the season for me (please don't ask why).

With all that comes with Christmas, the trees, the lights, the gifts, the parties... It is said to be the season to be Merry....But is it really?

It's so easy for us to get caught up in our own selves and lives without remembering how things could be or are for others. We forget that the world is full of unpleasantness and bad things don't take a break from happening just because its Christmas.

Last night, I got a bit bored so I began to scroll through my WhatsApp contact list and I was shocked to see that two friends of mine had recently updated their status/pictures to announce the death of a parent. I was so weak that I just sat on my bed and journeyed into the world of thoughts.

A few days ago, a friend of mine put up a fellow uni friend/course mate's picture, captioning rest in peace and I couldn't help but wonder how this Christmas would be especially for his family..

Today, I read about the five passengers of an Onitsha bound commercial vehicle who lost their lives to a crash in Anambara state, a mother and two children who lost their lives in same manner, at Ogun state, a police man who killed a driver for not giving bribe, a man suffering from a chronic kidney disease and needs about 50million naira for a transplant, a lady whose mum was recently kidnapped, terrorism here and there...the list could go on.

So yes, not everyone is having a merry Christmas. I talk to some friends and even in this season of cheer, some are still hurting, lonely, ailing or wailing.

I was seeing a movie a few days ago and in one of the scenes, they had a make-a-wish Christmas tree filled with wishes from kids and lonely beings. It really touched me to see wishes like 'I wish I can sleep in my own bed again', I wish I could have my patents back together again, "I wish you didn't have to go so soon"....

This Christmas, I'm reminded once again, how much I have to be thankful for. I may not have the perfect life, the perfect job, the desired account balance, but I've got loads of love, sound health and my loved ones too. I am more than thankful to God for the year 2016. When I look back and think about the things I went through and overcame this year, I can only say God is real. It's been all shades of Grace upon my life. And I wish that this Christmas would not only be a time to make merry but to also reflect on the true meaning of christmas.

To you my lovely readers, I wish you love, peace, happiness, sound health and a brand new start of year 2017.

I WILL LIFT UP MY EYES TO THE HILLS!!!!

I will lift up my eyes to the hills. From where does my help come from?

The words of psalm 121 came to me as I received and read a friend's testimony, which I promised I was going to share on my blog. This was meant to have been published last month, but I had some issues with my blog and promised to share it this month.

Testimonies are indeed sweet to share especially on here at Sophs inspirations lol. I was really encouraged by Tessy's testimony and I hope it would also be a source of encouragement to you as you read.


I was already several months behind on my apartment rent, and had been issued an eviction notice by the landlord. After going to court to address the issue, I received a 7 day notice in which I had to pay the back rent plus the one which was already due.

I called, emailed, and sent text messages to friends and families asking to borrow the money but no one could help. Almost every one I knew did not have that kind of money available. Though, they really did want to help but they just couldn't. I also had three different pending business deals, all of which fell apart. Leaving me with no hopes of raising the money.

The 7th day came and I still did not have the money. I asked the landlord if I could have extra time to pay since the deadline fell on the weekend and nothing much could happen. The deadline was then extended till the following Tuesday and that was the best he could do. 

On that same evening, I spoke to a friend who shared his testimony with me regarding a similar situation. He told me how he was faced with very severe financial crisis, so severe that he had resigned to the streets as a hawker. His bills had pilled up to the highest and there was no hope for a break through before his dead end comes. Along with his wife, they decided to pray and sow all they had left in the church. A few days after that, shortly before their dead end came, Someone blessed them with the exact amount they needed at that point in time.

I thought about what my friend told me and I know it sounds crazy to give away all you have when you know you are in serious need to solve a problem. But I prayed about it and asked God to lead me. The following Sunday, I went to church having all I had left. Although I was scared but I decided to trust God and as an act of faith, I gave all I had and resulted to broke-ness. I remained confident and refused disclosing the "foolishness" I had just done. With numerous thoughts in my head and heavy feelings in my heart, I decided to force myself to sleep. 

The following Monday morning, I woke up to an alert of 3.5 million naira. My account had been credited from one of the business deals I had long given up on. It had finally clicked!!!!! I knew it could only have been God. I was filled with so much thanks and praise. Behind the scenes, God had been working on my behalf and I was clueless. 

I was able to confidently pay my bills right on time (the last hour) and my faith was significantly boosted. 

I just want to really thank God for his goodness and grace and also encourage anyone who may be passing through trying times. Never take your eyes of God. He is the ultimate helper, the God of the 99th hour. He Never fails. Even in our foolishness, he favours us. He has indeed been my helper, my shield, my strength, my hope and my every thing. Always always look up to him.

I hope this was a blessing to you cause it definitely was to me. Never loose focus on God. Always keep your eyes glued to the hills for SURELY, your help will come.

Have a favour flooded week. :)

LIFE IN MY SHOES!!!!

Hey guys, 

Happy new month! The christmas season is almost here. Anyone excited? Well, I am.

So I decided to put up this post which I found worth sharing and I've had sitting in my draft for a while now. I hope you enjoy.

Life in my shoes is:

Deep, complex, bright, dark, funny and meaningful

Steadily ever changing

Always evolving

To an unknown place

Into someone unknown

Meaning to be found

Meaning to be filled

I walk along with my fears and my flaws

But also walk with courage and strength

I walk with memories of experiences that I hold so close

True to the heart that beats

In this body torn between child and the woman

That life shall bring me to become

I walk with a prayer that time shall grant me itself

To fulfil the dreams I hold

To smile, to laugh, to cry

Have ideas, make visions

Find meaning of what life means

And when I find it I shall share it

We can share meanings, experiences, ideas, visions, feelings, smiles

And now, that’s what life means..

And life in my shoes right now,

Is trying to live it with the pain, joy, smiles, laughter.

If you had to describe life in your shoes, how would you describe it? 

ON LIFE AND A PAINTING!!!!!

Hey guys,

Happy beautiful Sunday.


I'm super glad I got the opportunity to put up this post cause in all honesty, I thought I had lost this space when I realised I needed to renew my domain name (which has now expired), and I had lost my registration details. Thank God for web gurus. I wouldn't have been here if not for their help. I'm presently working on renewing it and I hope I can get back on my website before the end of the month. Anyways, how was your weekend? I hope you had a blessed Sunday too.

So I bumped into one of my primary school teachers last week Sunday at church, and she paid me a compliment regarding my make up, then further made a comment about my outfit. She said to me "hmm Soph! Soph!, you haven't changed, your still colourful as ever.

It reminded me of the days when I used to love drawing and colouring. It was so serious that, not only did I love drawing and colouring on books, tables and chairs, I also loved drawing and colouring on my skin. One would wonder why I don't have a tattoo by now..lol. 

Click on image for a clearer view.

Anyways, one of those days when we had a test, we were all asked to come up with something really nice and the best works would be placed up on the school board for teachers and parents to see. (Nigerian pupils can relate). Trust me with the crayons and colour pencils plus my competitive self then. I figured everyone was trying to paint a flower pot so my aim was to paint the best pot and even throw in some pretty looking flowers, making sure that what ever I came up with, made a whole lot sense.

Being that parents and teachers were going to see it, I wanted it to be perfect. However, I mistakenly sighted makinde's work and saw that all he had done was cause a huge riot between all the colours on his cardboard. I was sad for him. It was as tho, he just wanted to make a mess of his sheet. But after all was done, 3 works were selected as the best and makinde's was one.

Each of them held their works up before the class, and when asked to explain them, they all had something to say. Makinde's explanation was differnt and one that came with a major life lesson. :- I thought of how I wanted my life to be and I put it on my cardboard sheet. Huh!!! What does that even mean? My 7 year old self would have giggled. But thinking about it after many years, it so made a lot of sense.

Each one of us is given a blank canvass when we are born. But not everyone knows what to paint or wants to paint their own canvass. Everyone wants a life that's trending like every other person's, waiting for others to splash them with their color, forgetting that we all have pretty vibrant colours ourselves. Some of us use other people's canvases as our platform and even go as far as competing with them rather than come up with our own masterpiece.

Never forget that the greatest artists are those who always follow their hearts and create a colourful masterpiece:-Something different and unique, to be remembered and treasured through out the journey of life.

People will never remember that you drew outside the lines or you painted your horse black instead of brown. They will only remember the complete picture and only you can stain your canvass with the colours you choose.

Be vivid in your life.

HOW TO GET A GOODNIGHT'S SLEEP ON A COUCH!!!

Hey guys,

Happy new month and happy beautiful Sunday.

Today has been indeed beautiful. I've been loving the weather over here; the cool lovely atmosphere, and all I can do is wish that the weekend comes again tomorrow. But sadly, wishes aren't horses :(

Anyways how was your weekend?

So I decided to switch things up a little bit. I figured I had less blog posts on tips or guidelines on how to achieve certain things, so I thought it'll be nice to share a post on 'how to get a good night's sleep on a couch'. Quite funny yeah?

Well, if you've ever found yourself in a situation where you had to be confined to a couch for a night, probably two, sometimes weeks and even months, then you'd realise that sh*** ain't funny. 

I've come across people who find it very difficult sleeping on couches, I have a friend who was confined to a sofa for a year and constantly developed back pain. Reasons why I appreciate my boarding life experience:- You must adapt by force lol. What ever the situation may be, be it having family or friends over, squating with a friend or just having a sleep over, there is a certain skill to spending the night on the couch. Next time you find yourself missing out on the comfort of your own bed, here are a checklist of things you can refer to.

1. Take as much beddings as possible. 

While it might not be advisable to try negotiating the best pillow from a disgruntled friend or guest, you'll want to make sure you grab as much bedding as you can. The sofa can be a harsh sleeping environment.

2. Put down a bed sheet. 

This one's especially important if you're unlucky enough sleeping on a leather sofa. Covering it with a base layer will stop you from waking up drenched in sweat, or having to peel yourself free in the morning.

3. Remove the back cushions.

Give yourself some room to play with. You don't want to be dangling off the edge of the couch, falling face-first on the floor in the middle of the night. 

4. Take a nice position.

If you don't have a nice three-seater to bed down on, then you'll just have to make the best of it. Try curling up in the foetal position, or hanging your leg over the arm rest.

5. Pillow.

The pillow is crucial to a successful sofa sleeping. If you don't manage to grab one, then find a substitute, such as a balled-up jumper, and wedge it between the arm of the sofa and your head.

6. Blanket.

It's no use trying to tough it out in just a nighty, T-shirt or boxers. Remember, real men get cold too. You might have to get inventive again if you don't have a blanket handy; try draping a thick coat over yourself. If that fails, hit the scotch.

Ever been confined to your couch? What were your adaptive skills?