ON MELTING AND BONDING!!!

Ever noticed something about tough materials? Sometimes they've got to melt in other to bond with other materials.

I was walking down my estate with a neighbour of mine when we got into quite an interesting conversation. She told a story about a mutual friend of ours, who's presently married, but had consequtively experienced a few bad relationships in the past, as a result of her constant hesitation in giving her best to a relationship. She stated that for everyone she met, she'ld hold back a lot, fight all feelings and emotions, even when deep down, she had a strong urge to express her self. She believed in the mentallity that showing someone how much you care about them or love them, gives them the opportunity to take advantage of you.

One day, she met a man who really swept her off her feet, who genuienly cared about everything that concerned her and more. A man who showed love in the way he looked at her, held her hands, spoke to her and about her. But again, she held back alot, faught all feelings and hid all emotions, for fear that if he ever found out how much she loved him in return, he might take advantage of her love. As a result, she expressed no feelings, payed no compliments, acted like nothing was bothering her even when she was mad or upset about something as it made her seem tough and strong on the outside. Over time, pride crept into the relationship and resulted in a very bad break up.

When asked why she always had a problem with relationships, even when all she'd been trying to do was guard her heart jealously as the bible would say, her aunt explained that relationships are like chemical bonds between two materials. When a though material is melted and joined to another material, the bond formed, is not as strong as both materials melted on each end and joined together.

Love can never be built on a 'one way' street. Sometimes we love to be though in relationships, we hold back a lot; feelings, emotions, affections...you name it!. It's great to "protect" yourself from others definitely, however, when you find someone that truely loves you, its okay to show them love in return, pay compliments when you feel like it, be the first to call, speak when you are upset or sad about an issue, its okay to look within yourself and realise you have no control of the situation and in need of someone's help. It is righteous to say sorry when you know you have hurt the other person or have been wrongful towards them. That way, you have a stronger bond, an effortless relationship, a drama free and pride deficient relationship.

#You've got to melt in other to bond.

Please bare With me on my analogies.. It helps me get through life :D

Enjoy the rest if your week.

THE REASONS BEHIND MY SMILE!!!!

Someone once said to me that ; 'the only thing I notice about you, is your smile'. As a matter of fact, that statement has been a constant chant to my ears and as much as I'm unsure if that should be taken as a compliment, I'd like to simply take it as one lol.

Smiling is one thing I find hard to control..it comes almost always and all the time..plus, it gets very contagious, you might never be able to contain it.

I believe the simple act of smiling does far more than making you look friendly and approachable. It can change your life and the lives of those around you. So even in a simple day, I always manage to respond with a smile. I have a lot of motivation to smile but here are 80 random reasons why you always see me smiling.

1. I'm blessed
2. I'm loved
3. Family
4. Friends
5. Kids
6. Pictures
7. Food
8. Blogging
9. Chatting
10. Icecream
11. Chocolate
12. Cuddling
13. Flowers
14. Music
15. Movies
16. Making new friends
17. Reading new books
18. Red lipsticks
19. Bubble baths
20. Long walks
21. Full moon
22. Love letters
23. Good dreams
24. Good hair day
25. Rainbows
26. Inspirational words
27. Couples
28. Clothes
29. Happy memories
30. God's words
31. Being tickled
32. Art
33. Answered prayers
34. Birds singing
35. Sunrise
36. Day dreaming
37. Hugs
38. Adventures
39. Second chances
40. Butterflies
41. Stars
42. Vintage wall papers
43. Colours
44. Afternoon naps
45. Early morning sleep
46. Evening showers
47. Weddings
48. Proposals
49. Falling in love
50. Cozy blankets
51. favours from God
52. Making up
53. Giving
54. Sharing
55. Singing
56. New beginnings
57. Lessons
58. Talents
59. Perfumes
60. Dress up
61. Having a massage
62. Painting my toe nails
63. Memories
64. Old folks
65. Puppies
66. Kittens
67. Imperfections
68. Being forgiven
69. Reunions
70. Aww moments
71. Mother's advice
72. Finding money in my bag
73. Beautiful beings
74. Getting a ride
75. Facing my fears
76. Overcoming a challenge
77. Kindness from a stranger
78. New skill
79. green grass
80. Jesus loves me

So what's yours? Share with me the reasons behind your smile. :D

MY OVER AMBITIOUS EXPERIENCE!!!!

Hey guys,

Apologies for my long hiatus. I started the year with a bit of grief as I lost a friend so dear to me. But as the days go by, I realise I've got to accept what I cannot change and live while I still have a chance to live. I hope you all started off great and I hope the year's coming up even better than you imagined?

There is a common belief that the best investment options require a lot of money to get started, but the reality is that, there are small investments that allow you to start with as little as you have. Small scale poultry farming is one of them.

Earlier this year, I decided it was about time I invested. I had successfully grown my savings last year, but was faced with a pressing need which pretty much came in between my investment plans. I'd thought about the smallest business I could start, just as a side business, and then, small scale poultry farming came to mind. But due to the changes that had occurred with my savings, I became short of funds.

I prayed for some sort of financial favour and luckily for me, I got a call from an old friend of my mum inviting me to his house warming party. I honored his invitation, and at some point during the gathering, we stepped out and spoke at length, after which, he handed me some dollars. I was so happy and thankful. I didnt know exactly how much it was but it felt quite substantial when he placed it in my palms. I quickly clutched it firmly and fixed it in my pocket as I didn't have my wallet with me. It was as if God had sent him directly to me.

We returned back to the gathering and I began thinking about how I'd set up a backyard poultry farm at my house, build a cage for a few chickens, get them to lay some eggs, more chickens would hatch from those eggs, then I'd sell them to get even more chickens, build a bigger cage, rare them, sell them, then gradually move from the small scale farming to medium scale, and then to the large scale farming, after which, I'd probably sell all the chickens in other to buy some cows, which I would in turn, sell to buy some lands, which I would sell to buy some houses which I would also sell.....Mean while, I reached out to fetch the money just to know how much it was, and behold, it was gone. How on earth could I have lost such money? I questioned my self bitterly. It was right there in my back pocket..who would have taken it? I asked and searched around but to know avail. I was so pained..I actually wept. In my state of distress, I figured I had paid more attention to my ambitious thoughts and less to my environment. Hence, my chances of putting my plans to play were ruined.

This is similar to what happens sometimes as a result of being too ambitious. A couple of times, we get so caught up in getting ahead, that we forget ourselves in the scramble or we get so engrossed in reaching our goals that we forget the way to get there. We get ourselves under too much pressure and it reflects on our character. Being ambitious is great but being over ambitious could literally ruin your chances of achieving your dreams. On one hand, it could be a driving force, on the other hand, it could be a dragging force. Most of us aren't short on ambition. We all want more wealth, more success, more accolades, more everything but the reality is that; there's only so many hours in a day and more importantly, so many hours our bodies will allow us to work. If we can't control our ambitious drive, it will in turn, end up controling us negatively. Don't count your chickens before they are hatched and don't build your castles in the air. Be reasonably ambitious.

HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!

Here we are again folks, the start of a new year. The time when we're usually bursting with motivation and promises to not repeat the mistakes of the past.

I know I've learnt a lot in the last 12 months and I have spent some time, thinking about what my priorities will be this year. There are loads of possibilities this year, and the fact that we made it into the new year, means we've been given another chance,.an opportunity to set our priorities right and focus on what is more important - purpose and fulfilment.

A few days before the new year, 3 days precisely, I lost a friend who was so dear to me, in a way I never expected. I was shocked, cold and traumatized from the incident..different thoughts running through my mind. How could that have happend,..so suddenly and just a few days to the new year. It was a pain so severe and unbearable. One I'd never felt before. In that moment, I realised how short life is. We are probably all guilty at times of viewing time as an obstacle we need to hunker down and get through. E.g, "isn't it the end of the workday yet? I just need to get through this year..." Death reminds us that life is precious, temporary and not to be taken for granted. A daily practice of gratitude such as a simple prayer or a meditation, is a great way to stay positive and aligned with the awearness of the awesome gift of life. Also, appreciating the people we love isn't something we should leave for very special days like birthdays and good days. Appreciate your loved ones everyday cause the next second isn't guaranteed.

For me, this year is going to be my year of gratitude and appreciation to self, and everyone around me. Any other thing can come second but I urge you all to set your priorities right this year and let love rule your world.

Wishing you all a very happy and fulfilled new year.