Ever noticed something about tough materials? Sometimes they've got to melt in other to bond with other materials.
I was walking down my estate with a neighbour of mine when we got into quite an interesting conversation. She told a story about a mutual friend of ours, who's presently married, but had consequtively experienced a few bad relationships in the past, as a result of her constant hesitation in giving her best to a relationship. She stated that for everyone she met, she'ld hold back a lot, fight all feelings and emotions, even when deep down, she had a strong urge to express her self. She believed in the mentallity that showing someone how much you care about them or love them, gives them the opportunity to take advantage of you.
One day, she met a man who really swept her off her feet, who genuienly cared about everything that concerned her and more. A man who showed love in the way he looked at her, held her hands, spoke to her and about her. But again, she held back alot, faught all feelings and hid all emotions, for fear that if he ever found out how much she loved him in return, he might take advantage of her love. As a result, she expressed no feelings, payed no compliments, acted like nothing was bothering her even when she was mad or upset about something as it made her seem tough and strong on the outside. Over time, pride crept into the relationship and resulted in a very bad break up.
When asked why she always had a problem with relationships, even when all she'd been trying to do was guard her heart jealously as the bible would say, her aunt explained that relationships are like chemical bonds between two materials. When a though material is melted and joined to another material, the bond formed, is not as strong as both materials melted on each end and joined together.
Love can never be built on a 'one way' street. Sometimes we love to be though in relationships, we hold back a lot; feelings, emotions, affections...you name it!. It's great to "protect" yourself from others definitely, however, when you find someone that truely loves you, its okay to show them love in return, pay compliments when you feel like it, be the first to call, speak when you are upset or sad about an issue, its okay to look within yourself and realise you have no control of the situation and in need of someone's help. It is righteous to say sorry when you know you have hurt the other person or have been wrongful towards them. That way, you have a stronger bond, an effortless relationship, a drama free and pride deficient relationship.
#You've got to melt in other to bond.
Please bare With me on my analogies.. It helps me get through life :D
Enjoy the rest if your week.
@"relationships are like chemical bonds between two materials"
ReplyDelete... The above extract my Darling is different shades of true! But Sophie of Destiny.. You like love shhhhaaaa! choi! You are like VC of the University of Love (mushy mushy campus :) hehehe But thats a good thing though.. Means you will make a Roamntic Mushy Mushy Spouse! ... iWant :).
To me yeah Bubba.. Love is like learning to ride a Bicycle.. and i mean this in the sense that while searching for the right someboRRy.. you will definitely fall one too many times. Sometimes you fall without injuries, and you just dust yourself up and you are good.. but sometimes yeah.. you will fall and get really bad bruises and scars.. but at the end my Darling.. on the Long Run.. No maRRa how long it takes Baby mi.. you will end up learning how to ride the Bicycle... and in my analogyu ba.. that is when you have found the right someboRRy. So my advice as regards dating is to never Hold NADA back.. To Love and not wait to "be loved".. To Just do you and do love with all you have got.. cause just like the Bicycle yeah Ribena.. we never know the moment that we will get it all right.
Blessings Sophie!
I agree for a real relationship to succeed, you need to show love and your true self to the other person. That's been tough for me but the only way to have love xox ♡♡♡
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