A CLOSER LOOK!!!

One of my favorite things to do is STARE, not just at cute little kids, but at the lady in the mirror.

I love mirrors, not because I'm vain but because they are just really nice to look at lol Its one of the major things you can never miss going through my handbag and if by mistake you do, be sure to use the inner side of my wallet.

Okay so each time I'm done prepn and dressing up for work, I love to step back and evaluate myself, my outfit, my hair and makeup.

When that is done, I don't usually see any warts or pitfalls. I see an immaculate, Impeccable, flawless figure. Now when I move closer or take a closer look, I begin to see different things. I see blemishes, defects, spots, stains, specks, vices, pimples, bumps errant wiry hairs, eye bags and all sorts. The closer I get, the more detailed they become. Its just like staring at a magnified view of your face with a magnifying mirror, and then noticing all the crevasse-like wrinkles, Mt Vesuvius zits and acne within your semblance (which you normally wouldn't see using a normal mirror), then you begin to think "Time to wear sunscreen daily and cut down on the potato chips. Oh, and put better tweezers on the shopping list.."

With respect to life, we don't really see some over arching failures or anything close when we objectively step back and look at our lives from a distance because they appear beautiful from afar and we hate to see all the flops and flaws of it. We feel that people don't look at us with magnifying mirrors/glasses and so, we shouldn't look at our selves with those. But one thing I've realized is that; though it's great to always look at the beautiful and bigger picture, but regular, close, short looks into life are healthy, desirable even. A lot of times, we get so carried away with living send-less-ly, that we forget to do some self reflections once in a while. We neglect those short looks into life forgetting that It is in those moments that we see what is working and what isn't. It is also In those glances that we see the diversionary tactics that keep us from growing mentally, spiritually, emotionally, writing bigger projects, taking on greater tasks, fulfilling our purposes and achieving our dreams. I have noticed that those short looks into life help me reorder priorities if needed and remind me of what is important and what isn’t. The longer looks however, take my breath away and can reduce me to consternation and tears.

So, attention to detail is good, but obsession about detail is not. Its okay to stare at your flaws, pitfalls, warts and spots once in a while but staring at them for too long isn't healthy. With a bit of attention, I can notice my mistakes in my life, my career part/choice, my relationships, and can reflect on what part of my struggles I could focus more on dealing with. But with too long of a look, it leads to different harmful emotions like depression, comparison, insecurity, low self esteem and all sorts. It can basically shift from constructive self-criticism to scathing self-loathing in a few blinks and that isn't healthy at all.

So guys, as much as we all love to see the beautiful picture, let's not forget the ugly ones or neglect our flaws and imperfections cuz it is in embracing those flaws and imperfections that they become our super powers. But at the same time, let's not dwell too much on them.

Have a wonderful weekend :)